The quarrel of lovers is the renewal of love

For the whole world you can be nothing, for someone you can be the whole world.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Ovid, author of The Art of Loving, suggests that we should talk to each other more often and bring up difficult issues because only then can we grow. His thoughts were written down more than 2,000 years ago, but they are still very relevant. Professor John Gottman, a well-known relationship researcher, backs this up by saying: "True intimate relationships require openness, honesty, and a willingness to talk about difficult issues, even when it's difficult or uncomfortable."

His research shows that in a relationship, it is important for a couple to be able to talk about their feelings and difficult topics. He has found that the most satisfying relationships are those in which couples are able to express their needs, feelings, and thoughts. Even though it's not easy, it's worth having difficult conversations because otherwise it just leads to disagreement and disappointment.

So it's good for us not to avoid difficult topics in our relationships, even though it would be a faux pas to talk about one's imperfections on the first date. In the end, it's important to build a sincere relationship where we can talk about each other's faults and merits, and not just focus on praising each other.

Eli Finkel, an expert in social and relationship psychology, stresses that it is harder than ever to build lasting and satisfying relationships today. His research has shown that people have higher and higher expectations of their relationships and partners, while at the same time it is harder for them to find someone who meets those expectations.

According to Finkel, the key to a successful relationship is compatibility in five areas: goals, values, lifestyle, sexual preferences and personality. However, if a couple differs in these areas, there are still ways to survive and improve the relationship. Finkel suggests that a couple focus on understanding and accepting each other's differences, as well as compromising and finding common ground.

Building a lasting and satisfying relationship takes work, time, and commitment. It is important to talk to each other, address difficult issues, and be open to compromise and acceptance of differences. As Professor Eli Finkel said, "A good relationship is not something we just find, it's something we build. All of this requires a commitment of time and energy, but ultimately it will allow us to create lasting, satisfying relationships that will stand the test of time and be a source of happiness and support for us.